Many of us are told early on in life that we are in control of our lives, and can achieve anything we desire. Then why do so many of us feel stuck, especially in our careers? Why do we allow someone else to create our paths? Do we need an expiration date? I think we do…

Having worked in professional sports, and now serving as a board member for W.I.S.E. (Women in Sports and Events) has allowed me to have many conversations with women regarding their careers. The reoccurring theme is “feeling stuck” or not knowing what steps to take next.

The one phrase I have been saying a lot during these conversations is one I have been using all my life – “Know Your Expiration Date” – always be willing to have the tough conversation with yourself about what you want in life, your career, and find out if those around you support you and your goals.

I believe you should always do a self-assessment as to where you want your life or career to be headed, and understand what your priorities truly are. For women especially, these priorities shift a great deal due to career goals, relationships, family and/or children obligations.

Sometimes, the reality of the situation at your current company may not always support your goals; meaning the position or opportunities may not be available for you. If you are a person who is always looking to be challenged or to climb the proverbial “corporate ladder”, then you may have to look outside your current company for these opportunities. Let’s face it, if we are not happy with our jobs, we are not happy in general!

Knowing your expiration date isn’t a negative conversation. It is about putting yourself first and never allowing someone or a company to dictate what your path will be. A lot of times women have trouble doing this! Evaluating your personal and professional priorities are essential to being challenged, happy and passionate in what you do on a daily basis.

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Every Two to Three Years:

1. Am I happy where I am in my career?
2. Have I had an honest conversation with my boss about my career expectations – what I would like to take on, title I wish to have, salary goals, as well as what steps to take to accomplish my goals?
3. Does my current company truly have the opportunities available to move me forward in my career? They may give you actionable steps on how to start to achieve your goals, but that doesn’t guarantee you that you will get the desired outcome. Which brings us to the final question…
4. How long am I willing to wait in my current position/role in order to achieve my goals with my current company?

The worst thing you can do is sit around waiting for something to change, or someone to come and give you your dream position, title, or salary. Waiting around will make you feel stuck, fearful of making a move, unmotivated, and stressed at work or in your home life. Don’t lose your passion! Creating a different narrative for yourself is on the other side of fear, so don’t be afraid of change, as it will allow you to reach your dreams and goals!

You can achieve anything when you have a positive attitude and are willing to honestly answer these tough questions.

You are in control and sit in the driver seat. It is up to YOU to make your goals come to life by knowing your expiration date!

This article originally appeared in the Summer 2019 issue of CHOICES Magazine